If you’ve ever traveled on an airplane, you will know that when the flight attendant describes the safety procedures they always mention that in the event of an emergency, if you are travelling with a child, YOU – the PARENT – must put your oxygen mask on first, before putting the mask on your child.
The central idea behind this is simple – if you don’t take care of yourself, it is going to be very hard for you to take care of your child. When you as the parent are able to bring yourself back to a state of calm, you are much better able to be present, compassionate, and emotionally generous with your child. This might sound hard to do – I will help you get there.
Parenting is stressful. In such a fast paced, overstressed world, it is increasingly difficult to stay calm.
When we as parents can regulate our own thoughts, feelings, and behaviours; we are much better able to support our children. My training as both a counsellor and a parent coach allows me to dig deeper into parents’ triggers, so that they can choose to respond to their child in a way that isn’t hijacked by emotion, and brings more joy, calm, and connection.
From there, you can implement strategies to build connection and trust, foster emotional regulation, and allow your child to process their big feelings so that they can move through them instead of stuffing them. “Misbehaviour” in children is a cry for help. They need something from us as the parent, and if we can remain calm, and choose to respond from a place of empathic limits – behaviour shifts.
Kids cooperate when they feel connected.
Hello! I’m Jami-Leigh. I have
always had a passion for
More about me
I have been working to support children and families as a Registered Social Work Counsellor for over the last decade. I was also 1 of only 15 people worldwide to be selected and trained as a Certified Peaceful Parenting Coach by Dr. Laura Markham of Aha!Parenting. Additionally, I am a Course Instructor in the Master of Social Work Program at the University of Toronto.
I infuse evidence-based practice, child development, and brain science into the work that I do, to ensure families have access to tools and techniques that have been proven to work.
I also strive to give families concrete strategies, so that they have a toolbox full of practical hands on responses and resources.
I have training and special interest in supporting families that have children with special needs, including but not limited to autism, adhd, anxiety, sensory processing struggles, and trauma.
The gold image that I include in my work and give credit to is that of the Kintsugi, which is the Japanese art of repairing broken pottery by mending the areas of breakage with powdered gold. Although your journey in parenting may not have been what you expected or envisioned; where some might see imperfection or difference, others see beauty.Let’s Work Together